When people need to move on, be unselfish. You have to let them go.

The New York Branch of La Familia knew this would happen one day, and the day came on Saturday afternoon.  In the midst of what was an incredibly hectic day, The Road Warrior made the permanent move to join the wife a.k.a. The Shopping Lawyer and the rest of the Southern Branch of La Familia.  The commuting relationship, I’m sure, has not been easy. So, this is good thing, right?  You have to keep saying it quietly to yourself:

When people need to move on, be unselfish. You have to let them go.

The composition of our family in Nueva York is a world away from what it used to be years ago.

I’m feeling a bit nostalgic, so run with me here…

When The West Indian Mother and I moved to New York, we became part (well, not quite, but for what it’s worth, I’ll leave it as that) of a very large community of family, extended family and friends, especially those of relatives who had already been living in New York for years.  We were the bumpkins from the islands who came with heavy accents (not those who had already be speaking with the American twangs) and “foreign” ways.  At least we weren’t alone.  America can be a very scary and lonely place when you know no-one.  America can be a very scary and lonely place when you do not have a support system — however artificial sometimes.  America can be a very scary and lonely place when you are starting over from scratch — new homes, new grocery stores, new school, new employers, new customs — new lives, period.  America can be a very scary and lonely place when you are told, reminded, slighted, demeaned, whatever, when Americans find satisfaction in telling you how much better they are compared to you and how much more sophisticated they are, and how much richer they are.  Yes, all of those things.  So, contrary to the unrealistic belief, when you’re an immigrant, it’s not so “easy”.

Now, look at us.  All in different parts of the country, in different cities.  We’ve fragmented.  Thankfully, we’ve been here a while, so things aren’t so lonely or scary anymore.  However, there’s a sadness.  With the departure of The Road Warrior, it signals things have really changed.  Many have moved on over the years.  The “immediate” family can now be counted on one hand.  I never imagined that one day “The Family” would look like this.

The reality of all realities is, our relationships will change.  We’ve seen it with other departures. Although you still stay in touch, it isn’t like it used to be.  It just isn’t.  You get wrapped up in your lives locally, and frankly, you don’t remember to call, you rarely visit and you grow apart in a lot of ways.  Eventually what I call “stranger tendencies” creep in.  You know each other, but not really — not like before.  It’s strange.

The Road Warrior has moved on.  There were no goodbyes.  I wasn’t home to see him drive away.  Maybe it was for the best.  I’m happy for him, albeit sad for myself and the rest of us left behind.

A chapter has closed.  A new one begins.


Mostly Pics: EVITA on Broadway – The Finale | All good things must come to an end.

EVITA Cast - Orchestra Gratitude

Remember this?  Well, less than a year later EVITA fans and Ricky Martin fans would be seated in the Marquis Theatre in Times Square for the last time to see a talented cast with amazing choreography and timeless songs.

I’m not a Broadway fanatic, but I’ve seen a few shows in the last 3 years that have been impressive.  I almost wish I’d treated myself to some of the more famous ones that are now long gone.  But, if you’re a true resident of New York, you almost never go to Broadway plays.  The reason is simple: It’s expensive.  The popular shows can easily be hundreds of dollars for the average family, like a family of four.  For example, last spring, The Sequel visited New York and I played tourist guide.  We splurged on an evening performance of The Lion King and it was over $500.00 for the four of the them!  (Add another $150.00 for me, and you can see why this makes you decide against patronizing The Great White Way.)  I don’t know about you, but the average citizen doesn’t have that kind of money to spend sitting through a 2-hour play when a meal isn’t part of the equation.  No, they don’t feed you.  You pay for everything.  A night out on Broadway for dinner and a show can run a person $200.00, if they’re not careful.

When it was finally announced that EVITA would close after the departure of the three lead characters (originally, it was announced that there would be a new lead cast) Elena Roger (“Eva Peron”), Michael Cerveris (“Juan Peron”) and Ricky Martin (“Che”), it surprised many covering the Broadway community and fans of Broadway.

So, here we were watching it for the last time.  When the cast took their final bows, and for about 10 minutes we were treated to heartfelt “thank yous” from Michael Cerveris (in English) and Elena Roger and Ricky Martin (in English and Spanish), we knew we’d been able to be a part of something special.

Once the stage was dark, all that remained was a lone light.

Adios, EVITA.  Muchas gracias por una experiencia increíble!

Ricky Martin - EVITA Finale 1

Michael Cerveris, Elena Roger - EVITA Finale

Elena Roger Speaks, Michael Cerveris and Ricky Martin look on - EVITA Finale

Elena Roger gets emotional - EVITA Finale

Max von Essen - EVITA Finale

Rachel Potter, Other members of the Case - EVITA Finale

The Stage Goes Dark - EVITA Finale

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