A visit to The September 11th Memorial…A New Yorker’s Tale.

September 11, 2001 … September 11, 2013: 12 Years Later, a reblog of a post from June 23, 2012.


It took me a long time to do this.  Several months ago, The CFO and his wife, The Southern Bomb, were in town with the kids, and I took them to the September 11th Memorial but did not go in.  Actually, I have brought many people to the site since it opened so they could visit, but I refused to go in.  I don’t know what it is, but as many times as I have been down to Lower Manhattan (and I’ve made several trips to Century 21 — the department store, not the real estate agency — across the street from the site), I have never, ever had the nerve to go in.  It is different for people who live in this town versus out-of-towners. Tourists flock to the Memorial, and that’s what it’s there for — it’s a place to visit and pay your respects.  But, for us New Yorkers…

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Hanging on to priorities: Staying focused at work and on the job search

The rough road of my professional life continues.  I had hoped to have an easy summer, particularly in August, since it is one of those months when people make an effort to take advantage of the last few weeks of the summer to step out and away from the office.  Well, so much for that.  I was busy, and so were many people around me.

If you’re new to my lil’ blog, you may not know I am like many people who are part of the “lean and mean” business set-up.  I am a Department of One.  I churn out what I can as a marketing chick with zero help.  I am a few months shy of my 8-year mark where this has been my life.  It is one of those scenarios where at first you are seemingly promised support and then, of course, the excuses begin (if there isn’t outright silence) as to why they cannot deliver.

If you have a job, even under tough daily circumstances, you hold on to it.

So, my priorities last month:

  1. Begin scheduling meetings with recruiters recommended by friends and other industry colleagues; and
  2. Launch two more social media presences I had been hesitant to do since they would be two more items of responsibility to add to all the other items I am already responsible for.

Cut to this month — 8 days in.  I have had one meeting with an executive recruiter thus far.  The meeting went well.  This person has years of experience.  I appreciated the candor — and this was important since the last thing I needed was someone yes-ing me to death and not being realistic.  One of the things suggested was I include certain bits of information I had purposely not included in my resume, specifically, graduation dates and all jobs held.  At a certain point in a career, I question whether it is advantageous to include everything from your entire work history.  There are jobs some of us may have held that have no bearing on our career path and would have zero pertinence in what we do, so why include it?  As for graduation dates, the very real issue of age discrimination exists.  True, I may not be seen as “old”, but if a company can hire someone 15 years younger and willing to take a fraction of the compensation I am requesting, why in the world would they look my way?

I have tossed and turned about pros and cons.  What should I divulge and what should I hold off on until I actually get an interview?  There are no easy answers and no one-size-fits-all.   It isn’t a matter of “hiding” things, but simply making sure that the critical roles I have held, directly related to my career, are front and center on my resume and not some “job” I may have had years ago.  In my mind, including things that are not important simply takes up precious real estate on a 2-page resume.  I have no qualms about including everything on my LinkedIn profile; potential employers can easily find what they want.  But, the very real issues are pertinence and space, and in that order.

August also had me launching two more social media presences for my company.  We already had a LinkedIn Company Page, but we now have a Facebook page and Twitter account.  These may be a bit tougher to deal with but with concerns from The Suits about the company’s “lack of visibility”, after going through a SWOT (Strengths, Weaknesses, Opportunities and Threats) Analysis, joining Facebook and Twitter made sense.

Cut to today — what should be my peaceful Sunday.  I happen to check our Facebook page, and I will admit, I am at my rope with criticisms from people who have a lot of say in this world but offer no substantive solutions.  The message could not have been more off-putting.  One of those people who decide to dish nastiness and proclaim their comments to be “friendly” thus buying them a pass for the behavior. Of course, I immediately jumped on their Facebook page.  “Hmmm…”, I thought.  You have a personal photo in your header but the website you include links to your life as a professional; you have less than 50 likes and the photo in your header is seemingly older than the photo used as your Facebook icon.  Am I being petty?  I don’t think so.  If you are going to dish it, make sure your sh*t is together.

I believe in the this:  People living in glass houses should not throw stones. 

From where I sit, other companies who have similar types of Facebook pages do nothing greater than what I had only begun to do for our company out of the gate.  And the implication that just because this person “liked” our page would somehow mean we should be grateful…Um, not.

I am still seething.

Every day, I realize I have less and less patience and my fuse is short.  If this was not my company’s Facebook page, I would have told this person to go f*ck themselves.  However, professionalism dictates.  So, I replied with a simple two-liner, which was very gracious but took every ounce of energy to write.

If I had the wherewithal to be an entrepreneur and work for myself and be as abrasive as I wanted to be, I would do it in a heartbeat.  For now, however, my priority is to stay focused at work and in the job search so that 2014 does not find me stirring and repeating.  And yes, I am already worrying about 2014.